As with anything positive ... there are some 'bad apples' when it comes to personal trainers. Short of calling them predators, in a field whose main focus is to have your wellness, safety and best interests in mind - ulterior motives can lurk. Hey, you're out of shape and they have "the answer." With this, some blindly follow the lead of a few wolves in sheep's clothing ...
While visiting an out-of-town gym, I placed my water bottle between my knees to free up my hands, so that I could tie my hair back. I'm talking nothing suggestive about the act whatsoever. I even had on pants (not that it should matter). And before I could lower my arms to retrieve the bottle, I heard a guy say, "I wish I was that bottle." I gave him the blank stare of all blank stares. My mission was to make him as uncomfortable as his comment was meant to make me. The kicker? He had on a polo shirt with the facility's logo! A trainer-specific garment.
Another instance happened when I began my journey. While walking around my business park, a man stopped me and advised that he was a personal trainer on the side. Showed me his business card and everything. He then went on to let me know how he admired my commitment to walking and offered up free training. I declined, mainly because ... I didn't know him from Adam. But, I didn't mind the company and friendly advice, when he'd catch me walking. Before I knew it, the conversations got away from workouts, form and progress and way too far into my personal life. In our finale conversation, giving me the 'your man can't love you like I can' spiel ... pump ya brakes bruh.
Now, in reality some clients welcome this kind of treatment. Lines are crossed everyday (err, and night) between co-workers and even parishioners. You have the will to act on attractions, as you wish. If you're an adult, it's your prerogative. I came in from the pool, to the locker room a few months ago and overheard this woman going on and on about how her trainer was feeling up on her. In her words, "I knew what he was doing, but I liked it." What she doesn't realize is that if he's trying it with you, he's trying it with other clients, too. You're not the exception. I guarantee that.
This is an intimate profession, sure enough. Touching/guiding is involved and let's not forget, limited clothing. But if your trainer is unable to control their loins or loinettes and retain some form of decorum as they instruct, they're clearly in the wrong business.
So, if you do find yourself on the receiving end of some inappropriate behavior, report it! You as a human being first and consumer do not have to put up with it. Most gyms have a conduct policy and reporting incidents will raise a red flag, that they'll have to address. And if you don't feel comfortable going to the facility's management, call up the organization that certified the individual - and file a complaint.
I've heard of marriages being dissolved over trainer/client relationships going too far. And individuals AVOIDING the gym, for reasons of past occurrences where they were offended, by staff or other hired fitness "professionals."
Know your trainer! Confirm their credentials and unless you know them personally, do not solicit their services until you find reviews or have references to their practices. This may prevent a lot of headaches in regards to how you're treated as a customer/client ... and person.
~PC